Everybody wants their flowers while they’re alive. Not many people admit this, but they do. I mean, wouldn’t it be cool to be able to witness people’s testimonies about how you made them feel? Sam gets that privilege in Thursday’s episode of “Better Things.”
Sam believes that adults, too, need praise. Her oldest children think praise is designed for children and that adults should be above that, especially their adult mother.
While they’re all watching TV, Max switches the channel and boom! There’s Sam on the screen. Max continues to another channel. Sam does a 180 and lectures the girls on how she wants them to be proud of her. She has a real acting career, and seeing her children take that for granted makes her feel some kind of way (except for Duke. Duke is perfect). Max and Frankie make fun of her, and Sam storms out of the house.
I was a child once. And I forgot that my mom was once a child. We grown children need praise at every phase of our lives. It’s completely normal.
Look at the incentive structure at your job. If you do well, you maybe get a raise, bonus or a gift certificate to some obscure place.
If you purchase a certain amount of beauty products with Sally, you get an x amount of products either for free or discounted.
If you’re an actor (like Sam is), then your director will still say you did a good job even though he requires 10 more takes.
This all helps people look forward to something when they wake up because it can be hard to wake up. And Sam doesn’t want to feel that way when she has daughters who can help her do so.
As a mother of 2 teenagers, it is now her turn to get some praise. Before she storms out, she reminds them that she has been to every recital, game and practice to support them. To which the children retort, “That’s what you’re supposed to do.” Maybe they didn’t say that exactly, but that was the gist and intention. And that is what encourages Sam to kick rocks.
She finds solace in a random bar chatting it up with some man who looks like he frequents that place daily. She gets a text from her “big gay husband,” summoning her back to the house. She arrives, and the children have staged a funeral for her. Sam takes her place as the dead, along with Duke because Duke is perfect, and the eulogy commences.
Tears and tears and tears are shed by the dead Sam because her children are actually saying some beautiful things about her. Max may have had the best eulogy – she says that she “didn’t (past tense because Sam is dead, remember?)” care about her mom’s career because she admired what kind of woman and mother she was first. She goes on to say that because of her mother’s example, she was able to become a good human. Now, isn’t this the goal of parenthood?
Sam gets what she wants – a real relationship with her children, one where it is two-sided. Isn’t that what all relationships are about?
On the flip, Duke flips out because no one said anything about her, hahahahaha.
“Better Things” inspires me to be a better human, too. That’s more praise for ya, Sam!
Season 2, Episode 3 (S02E03)
Better Things airs Thursday at 10PM on FX
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