In last week’s episode, Alison (Ruth Wilson) and Cole (Joshua Jackson) got physical. I understand why. They’ve experience so many emotional rollercoasters over the years – heartbreak, disappointment, abandonment, and the list goes on. They used to be in love, and if you’ve ever been in love with someone, you know that old feelings can bubble back up to the surface when you see them again.
However, Cole has a change of heart and declares that he doesn’t want that to happen again. Among several reasons, he says that his wife, Luisa, is “a good woman.” Excuse me, but that excuse is so lame. He’s unhappy with that lady. I think he married her because it was convenient. Yes, she is a good woman, but there are many good women. What about being with the one that you can’t live without? For Cole, that is Alison, but he’s not willing to admit that because he was on the receiving end of a broken heart.
As one gets older, relationships get more and more complicated. Ya know why? Because of this eye-opening quote per IG:
“SOMEONE: You’re gonna end up alone because you’re too picky
ME: You’re gonna end up divorced because you settled for less.”
Why is this so true of Alison, Cole, Noah (Dominic West), Helen (Maura Tierney), and the world? I have seen this firsthand. Husbands cheating on their wives. Wives cheating on their husbands. Some women OK with their man having a girlfriend. Yes. These things happen. And I think it’s because people have been burned by the social construct that you should get married by x age and after x amount of time. Do people not realize that you’re not really a grown-up until you’re 35? (quoted by a very wise co-worker, and I am sticking to this).
Most people are getting married younger than that. And guess what? They’re gonna change, and they’re gonna want something different. Let me correct that: they might change, and they might want someone different. And if they do, then it makes biological sense. This show has also mirrored real life in that when she people say things like, “I love you,” their definition could be totally different from their partners. Not sure if FB still has this option, but relationships in your late 30s, 40s, and early 50s seem to get a lot more “complicated.” As Sir J. Cole would say, “B***ches come and go, Money come and go, Love come and go (Don’t s*it last). Sigh. I don’t think love lasts because it’s not being activated at the right time (after 35, that is).
So, for Cole, who is a late 30-something man, now is his chance. He can be with Alison if he wants. They have a child together, and if not, then he will regret it although it does open him up to rejection again. But who wants to be in a marriage where the husband says, “Well, she is a good woman?” Sounds tragic to me.
Noah is shooting his shot. He misses, but he realizes it was worth it. He and Alison spend time together on Block Island, a place where no one knows who they are. They have a fantastically emotional time, but at the end of it, there was no changing Alison’s mind. She still didn’t want to be married to him. Chalk it up to Noah’s arrogance, but at least he gave one last hurrah before signing those papers.
On his return home, he is haunted again by Gunther (Brendan Fraser). This time, he crashes into some posts, ruining a car he borrowed from a “friend” (the person isn’t revealed). This further proves that Noah might have a mental illness – he is seeing imaginary things and reacting to them. I think he is the one who stabbed himself and legitimately believes someone else did it. I knew prison could change you but not in this way. Whoa.
Season 3, Episode 5 (S03E05)
The Affair airs Sunday at 9PM on Showtime
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